Understanding Chastity

Chastity: the condition of being pure, chaste. Virginity. Virtuous character. Celibacy.
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Synonyms: abstemiousness, abstinence, chasteness, cleanness, continence, decency, demureness, devotion, honor, immaculacy, innocence, integrity, modesty, monogamy, morality, restraint, singleness, sinlessness, spotlessness, temperance, uprightness, virginity, virtue.
Antonyms: dirtiness, fornication.
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  • Chastity is uprightness — dignity and honesty.
  • Chastity is abstinence — self-control, self-restraint from desires.
  • Chastity is integrity — filled with honor and goodness.
  • Chastity is honor — of repute, high standing and respect.
  • Chastity is virtue — ethical and trustworthy.

Benefits of Chastity

  • Chastity provides respect — for being trustworthy, honest and honorable.
  • Chastity provides peace — seeking simplicity in style.
  • Chastity provides security — intimacy with commitment.
  • Chastity provides trust — building faith in those we bond with.
  • Chastity provides value — meaning and substance, dignity and integrity.

Acts of Chastity in Everyday Life

  • The Bible — "Thou shalt not commit adultery" — the seventh of the original Ten Commandments.
  • White at Weddings — The purity of the bride dressed in white is still upheld even in today's modern society.
  • "Just Say No" — The slogan sent out to young people, promoting abstinence and self-restraint.
  • Priests and Nuns — Living lives that demonstrate the sanctity of the human body.
  • Positive Parenting — Work with pre-teens and teens to establish and determine their standards for behavior with the opposite sex.

Methods for Achieving Chastity

  • Seek Friendship, not Attraction — as the foundation for relationships with the opposite sex.
  • Choose Common Friends — Find those who share your standards and views about chastity to become friends with.
  • Model Love and Caring with your Mate — Set an example of affection as a life-long commitment.
  • Practice Self-Reliance — Healthy decision-making skills yield strong, solid results.
  • Communicate Openly — In an unembarrassed, honest way about sex and relationships.

Golden Mean

Sexual abstinence

Quotes for Chastity

Chastity is the cement of civilization and progress. Without it there is no stability in society, and without it one cannot attain the Science of Life.
- Mary Baker Eddy -
Secrecy is the chastity of friendship.
- Jeremy Taylor -
When a woman has lost her chastity she will shrink from nothing.
- Tacitus -
Purity and simplicity are the two wings with which man soars above the earth and all temporary nature.
- Thomas a Kempis -
Purity of personal life is the one indispensable condition for building up a sound education.
- Mohandas Gandhi -

Recommended Reading

Real Sex: The Naked Truth about Chastity — by Lauren F. Winner

In her "REAL SEX" book, Lauren Winner presents an understanding of sex and an honest exploration of the virtue of chastity that is both interesting and theologically grounded. No preaching here.

Pure Gold: Encouraging Character Qualities in Marriage — by Susanne M. Alexander

A set of invaluable suggestions and exercises for married couples designed to encourage intimacy and companionship. Ms. Alexander's book presents effective ways to know each other and enjoy each other, communicate better and deepen their level of commitment.

General Rules

Practice virtues daily so that they become ‘habits of the heart’.

Don‘t strive for perfection.

Never give up! Remember: even the greats have off days.

Rely on your intuition.

Avoid extremes. Strive to achieve the golden mean between excess and deficiency of a virtue.

Have fun and enjoy the program with humor and optimism.

Chastity is the cement of civilization and progress. Without it there is no stability in society, and without it one cannot attain the Science of Life. Mary Baker Eddy